Aligned With Guilt!

Motherhood is fantastic it really is, but is it ALL of the time? I am convinced that when you become a mom, it is aligned with guilt. I spend so much time feeling guilty. For what you ask? EVERYTHING! Sometimes I feel like I've been too harsh on Avery, not patient enough with her, or I haven't spent enough time with her. I even feel guilty if I feel like I've given her too much. I wonder if she is learning the value of things and realizing she can't always have everything she wants in life. It's a difficult journey, and maybe I am one of the few that feel guilt constantly but it sure makes it difficult to fall asleep at night. I think about my day with my kids and what I could have done differently. I make a challenge for my self and set new goals for the following day. It helps me. Do I end up following through? Not always but it definitely helps me to feel as though I'm making some sort of progression and change in my attitude. After all, it is MY attitude that needs the adjusting. My children are products of me. They will learn behavior through me and my behavior towards them. I have to remind myself that my day may have stunk because of me, not because of them. I have to change my outlook and expectations of them and how our day should be and that is what my goal has become. I can be happy, which in turn, will help the rest of the family to be happy cause we all know, if mom is miserable, everyone is miserable. So, my advice if you're like me and suffer from guilt. 1- Make an attitude change and recognize that children often mirror their parents behavior so what can we change? 2- Setting realistic expectations for my day with my children. Every day is a new day and we have the ability to make it what we want. 3-  Don't sweat the small stuff. I often do and it's not worth the emotional baggage that comes with it! ENJOY BEING A MOM ;)