Topic of conversation

As women, we love to get together with other women and talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. Our men should like these gatherings because we unload and unleash all the talking on each other and perhaps they will be spared. :) I have come to realize the topic of conversation inevitably goes in the same direction no matter what group of women I am with. And what direction is that? Well, you can guess.  That's right, the topic of lovin. I really don't know why it goes in that direction and sometimes it just gets down right graphic. Is that a bad thing? I've pondered this. I guess it could be if it's taken too far or if someone gets offended. However, I think it can be a good thing too. Although these are private matters between a husband and wife, they are also somewhat tabu and that can often lead us to question what is normal regarding our emotions toward the subject. But why should we care what other people do and think about the topic? Well, we can not care, that is definitely an option, but we can also receive help and advice, which never hurts either. I definitely have lent a listening ear for some of my friends who struggle in this department and yes somethings are a challenge for some people and it may cause problems in the marriage. I have found it rather therapeutic for myself and others to be somewhat open about this sort of thing. I have left my group of friends feeling confident and glad that I'm feeling good about that part of my marriage. As women who are supposed to be modest and mindful of our bodies and their sacred component, it can become difficult to discover how to enjoy that part of marriage without feeling like you're sacrificing your core values. I'm here to tell you, that is why that topic of conversation can be helpful. One should never feel like that part of their life is compromising the virtue they hold. Being married is a gift from God and so is that aspect of marriage. Enjoy it and don't be afraid to talk about it with your friends as well as your spouse. I felt the need to write a little something on this topic because so often I find that women are afraid to not only to talk about it with their friends but also their spouse. (You should always be able to talk to your spouse about it.) Often I have found that women have insecurities and question's that lack an answer because they don't know how to ask. I assure you, friends can help!

Finding Joy In Motherhood!

Today, I read a sad story about a young women close to my age, who had passed away unexpectedly in her sleep. That's not even the entire story. It's actually quite tragic. She left behind a husband and children. I prayed for this family and it got me reflecting on my own life. I pondered how there are so many young beautiful mothers out there who for some reason, Heavenly Father, chooses to take them home. (It is my thought that it's because they are so wonderful, He needs them for a greater purpose on the other side.) And among these beautiful women, there are so many other women who are completely destructive. They are selfish, self serving and can't quite figure out the true meaning of life, or perhaps they just don't care. I admit that before I had children, the thought of staying home with them kind of made me cringe. (I know, jaws are dropping to the floor cause who doesn't want to be with their kids right?) I just had so many different ideas about what I wanted out of life and they were completely selfish ideas. I wanted to go to grad school, (still do :) I wanted to write books, have a career where I made a significant contribution to my employers. The list could go on. The desires I felt just couldn't be fulfilled staying home with children until I prayed for help. I can honestly say, I love being home with my kids, and I wouldn't wish to be anywhere else. Do those feelings of wanting to accomplish various things in my life go away? No. They are just put on the back burner for now. I am completely content and that's the truth. Getting there wasn't so easy for me. I had to pray to put my selfish desires aside and put my children first. I had to pray to recognize my OWN strengths and stop comparing myself to others. (That was a huge weight off of my shoulders!) I compared myself constantly. I thought I should be a certain way, dress a certain way and accomplish certain things in order to be a successful stay at home mom. Well, that's just ridiculous! There is no mold or pattern to follow. It's finding what works for you and what makes you happy. However, you have to be able to be happy for others. If they have a great life and there are things in their life you could envy, DON'T! Be happy for them and hope for the best for everyone. Positive thinking makes for a positive life, and I have truly gotten to that point in my life. I'm happy for my friends who have wonderful things happen to them. I'm happy with myself and the only expectations I have to live up to are my own and the Lords. What a great feeling! My life is absolutely wonderful and I am so happy to wake up each morning to the sound of my beautiful kids, and I am so grateful I get to be home with them and put all of the selfish thoughts I once had, aside. :)